The Right Blessing: An Identity Story

Joey has always felt different, especially when playing with friends like Adam or sitting with the girls at recess. By age nine, she knows she's not a boy, but telling her family is terrifying. One Shabbat evening, Joey's anxiety builds during the family blessing. Unable to bear being called a boy any longer, she stops the ceremony and shares, "I'm not really a boy." Her parents listen closely and, after a heartfelt conversation, offer unconditional love. They agree to use "she" and "her" for Joey. Though they make mistakes, they do their best, and Joey finally feels seen. At the next Shabbat dinner, she receives the blessing she's always wanted.